Entrepreneur reminds us of 5 big ideas for successful public speaking–from “seasoned experts.” Jayson DeMers identifies these big 5: 1.Talk about what you know you know. 2. Speak so slowly it feels strange. 3. Talk to the back of the…
Being aisaika: 5 rules for every adoring husband
CNN shares relationship advice from Japan’s Kiyo Yamana, the founder of the Japan Aisaika Organization which celebrates the “adoring husband.” Of the mission set by Kiyo Yamana and his “beloved wife” Kimi, Breeanna Hare writes (excerpt): We also came up…
poems to make you Cry, Smile, Wonder
David C. Sarnacki has published Cry, Smile, Wonder, poems about our collective joys and struggles of being human. The poems touch on such subject matters as: relationships, things Thrivers tell Survivors, friendships, love and divorce, family, parents and children, adoption,…
Happiness: loving life, professionally
The ABA features Dean Nancy Levit and thoughts on loving life, professionally, by finding work you want to do and finding joy in the work you are doing, and by seeking neither perfection nor keeping up with the Joneses. Stephanie…
Intelligence, energy, integrity?: The one trait that matters
Inc quotes Warren Buffett on another secret to his success–find people with integrity to work with. Buffet said: “You’re looking for three things, generally, in a person: intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don’t have the last one, don’t…
New Year’s resolutions for better relationships
From three sources, a potpourri of tips for you and your partner on improving your marriage or relationship. Psychology Today features Jeremy S. Nicholson’s 6 tips, three each for singles and for couples: Resolutions for Singles 1) Be More Social…
Springing into action: helping make unhappy holidays better
USA Today offers us tips for helping our family and friend dealing with the Holiday Blues. Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant [the the authors of “Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy”] write (excerpt): First: . . .…
Being disgusted with-or kind to-your partner: the top risk factors for divorce
CNN features a Thrive Global item on the predictors of divorce. The item references five correlations between individual factors and the end of a marriage: age, demographics (education and religion), neuroticism (emotional instability), infidelity (affairs), and contempt (hostility). Drake Baer…
You asked for something, I offered something: How to reach out and help
On Being features Omid Safi’s advice for helping someone you love, someone who is struggling. Omid Safi writes (excerpt): But don’t ask them to give you their hand. Instead, offer them your hand. Don’t ask for their heart, offer them…
Always watching: Is Facebook the real “Big Brother?”
CNN Money focuses a moment on Facebook’s most recent example of tracking everything about you. Since people willingly sacrifice privacy for the privilege of using their pages, they watch you and then sell you to advertisers. Tracking habits, Facebook compiled…
Embarking on this great adventure
CNN recently posted the Presidential hand-off letter–from Obama to Trump–on Inauguration Day 2017. Might the four points apply to all of us? 1. Use your blessings to help others. 2. Be a leader, by action and example. 3. Be a…
Professional Review and Rating: David C. Sarnacki, Super Lawyers 2017
Super Lawyers selected David C. Sarnacki to its 2017 Michigan Super Lawyers list. Super Lawyers, part of Thomson Reuters, uses “a patented, multi-phase process that includes peer nominations, evaluations and independent research” to select the top 5% of attorneys in…
Restoring trust after a crisis: how to prevent making things worse
CNN Money highlights four keys to recovering from a crisis and restoring reputation. While written in the context of what companies should do in a public relations crisis, the tips provide a focus for relationship problems we encounter. Rupert Younger…
How to handle difficult people? Simple strategies starting with listening and understanding
The ABA’s Law Practice Today offers advice on dealing with difficult people. Matt Potempa explains his top six tips (excerpt): 1. Listen. . . . Try to understand the source of their frustration while avoiding the temptation to interrupt and…
From pain to future: grieving into a new life
On Being shares an extraordinary letter offered up to a stranger, the “unknown friend.” Kao Kalia Yang writes (excerpt): From somewhere in the high heavens, the places I could not see, far beyond my gaze, there was a future floating…
How to avoid raising spoiled kids: Just say no
The New York Times reminds us of something the Rolling Stones told us years ago: “You can’t always get what you want/But if you try sometimes well you might find/You get what you need.” In today’s research, showing our children…
Keeping your inner peace
The recent article on finding the calm in your chaos reminded me of this quote attributed to Saint Francis de Sales: “Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace…
Living with the chaos inside of you: How to find calmness and manage stress
CNN shows one approach to finding your calm in the storm. Jessica Ravitz writes (excerpt): “Chaos is not outside of us; chaos is inside of us,” [Swami Chidanand Saraswatiji] answers. “In the chaos also you can find calmness. In the…
Why do I feel alone?: The upside of things going wrong
Jennifer Ryan animated an On Being discussion of fear, vulnerability and connection. The 2015 conversation between Brené Brown and Krista Tippett explored The Courage to Be Vulnerable, and Ryan recently added her artistic inspiration to the voices. Ryan writes (excerpt):…
Relationship advice: 11 words, 4 sentences for living and loving
On Being with Krista Tippett recently reminded us of her 2013 interview with Dr. Ira Byock. The expert in palliative care and hospice shares the core statements for any relationship and for what to say when you don’t know what…