The AAML developed a downloadable parenting time brochure labeled “Child Centered Residential Guidelines.” The Guidelines provide some information and options for developmentally appropriate parenting plans. They consider the “best interests of the child,” a standard applied in many States to the family’s facts and circumstances.
Entries Categorized as 'Relationships'
October 7, 2015
August 26, 2015
Love and Logic reminds us that we should share concerns directly, rather than aligning with someone else and dragging him or her into the problem.
Dr. Charles Fay writes (excerpt):
Fortunately, mental health experts have learned a great deal about how to help families operate in healthy, happy ways. One of the most helpful discoveries involves who [...]
June 26, 2015
From today’s United Supreme Court decision in OBERGEFELL v. HODGES Justice Kennedy offers these comments on marriage (excerpt):
. . . Marriage is sacred to those who live by their religions and offers unique fulfillment to those who find meaning in the secular realm. Its dynamic allows two people to find a life that could [...]
May 25, 2015
The June 1, 2015 issue of Time Magazine has an article on The Art of Resilience (page 36), which includes a sidebar with 10 expert tips (page 42).
The top three tips for rising above difficulties, setbacks, stress, loss and suffering were (excerpt):
1. Develop a core set of beliefs that nothing can shake
2. Try to find [...]
April 19, 2015
In case number 14-571 , the U.S. Supreme Court is considering the case of Michigan residents April DeBoer and Jayne Rowse. Arguments are scheduled for April 28th, and a decision is expected by late June.
The briefs submitted to the Supreme Court highlight two issues:
1. Does the Fourteenth Amendment require [...]
April 8, 2015
On Being highlighted Bill Murray’s answer at a 2014 Toronto International Film Festival press conference.
Trent Gillis reports Bill Murray’s remarks as (excerpt):
So, what’s it like to be me? You can ask yourself, “What’s it like to be me?” You know, the only way we’ll ever know what it’s like to be you is if you [...]
March 1, 2015
On Being offers 5 different ways to say “No.”
On saying No gracefully, Courtney E. Martin writes (excerpt):
1. No, for now.
2. No, but here are some awesome resources.
3. No, but have you tried our mutual friend?
4. No, I can’t do that, but I can do this.
5. Let me think about it.
January 4, 2015
On Being reminds us “why it’s such an outrageous blessing to have the opportunity to choose our friends.”
Courtney E. Martin writes (excerpt):
So now that the family circus is over for another season and you’re turning your attention to the beginning of a new year, consider this for a resolution: become a fierce talent scout of [...]
December 18, 2014
CNN entices us with the title: “5 ways to be extraordinary.” In discussing five extraordinary people, Brandon Griggs lists these categories:
1. Show courage in a crisis
2. Exhibit grace under pressure
3. Meet evil head on
4. Miracles are within your grasp
5. Share credit for your success
December 6, 2014
On Being highlighted one of my favorite quotes in a post about The Questions We Ask Ourselves.
The words of Rainer Maria Rilke offer a bit of light in moments of blinding darkness:
“Be patient toward all that is unresolved in your heart… Try to love the questions themselves… Do not now seek the answers, [...]
October 10, 2014
Ozy highlights a Boston University study suggesting Facebook is “a positive, significant predictor of divorce rate and spousal troubles.” Apparently, Henry David Thoreau* was right about true cost: “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.”
Anne Miller writes (excerpt):
While previous studies suggested that Facebook and its ilk [...]
September 15, 2014
CNN celebrated Positive Thinking Day (September 13th) by offering “five expert tips to help you think yourself well.” The point is to take responsibility for your happiness and to do something.
Sara Cheshire included these tips (excerpt):
Be aware of your automatic reactions
Catch and reframe your thoughts
Don’t believe everything your mind tells you
Let go of fear
September 8, 2014
The Wall Street Journal focuses divorcing couples on financial planning for “getting unmarried.”
Veronica Dagher offers and discusses these tips (excerpt):
1. Know What You Own and Make Copies. . . .
2. Save and Budget. . . .
3. Watch and Establish Credit. . . .
4. Watch the Timing. . . .
5. Consider Selling the Family Home. . [...]
Changing minds: Listen, show you understand the other person’s side, ask to see your side, suggest another outcome
August 17, 2014
Real Simple suggests how to go about changing someone’s mind.
Amy Spencer writes (excerpt):
The essential rule when trying to convert someone is: Don’t — at least, not at first. “Just listen,” says Dennis Ross [author of "The Missing Peace"] . . . .
. . . After listening, show that you get it.
Next, nudge the other [...]
July 13, 2014
Kim Komando adds 5 things to your To Do List when a divorce is coming, as well as an opening warning to think twice before posting to social media. In the column, Komando has tips regarding passwords, social media profiles, personal information, and the kids.
In her introduction, Kim Komando writes (excerpt):
My father used to [...]
July 5, 2014
Psychology Today included an item from Susan Krauss Whitbourne’s blog, entitled “How to Ask For a Favor.” She offered 7 specific situations commonly involving opportunities for favors, and she identified 4 core principles.
Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., explains each of these Four Favor principles (excerpt):
1. Be honest and straightforward. . . .
2. Don’t [...]
June 29, 2014
The New York Times highlights the financial problems for divorce in your 50s and 60s.
Constance Gustke writes (excerpt):
[M]ore Americans are going through so-called gray divorces and the downsizing that follows.
“There isn’t much time left to enhance portfolios post-divorce,” said Susan Brown, co-director of the National Center for Family and Marriage Research. “So you have to [...]
June 15, 2014
On Being includes a post by Parker J. Palmer that, while not intended to focus on Father’s Day, applies to parenting: Have the courage to make small contributions knowing that there is a cumulative power in your imperfections.
Palmer writes (excerpt):
[Leonard] Cohen’s lyrics [in Anthem] remind me that there is a particular kind of courage [...]
May 29, 2014
Maya Angelou (1928 – 2014), heart, soul and voice of “And Still I Rise.”
April 30, 2014
Psychology Today offers us scientific wedding vows.
Samantha Joel’s list includes (excerpt):
1. “I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.”
2. “I promise to support and protect your freedom; because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.”
3. “I [...]