Entries Categorized as 'Relationships'

Essentials, priorities and lifestyle choices: How to set up a quick budget

Date April 1, 2014

LearnVest offers a simple budgeting rule to apply instantly to your household. Your take-home pay is allocated among three categories: essentials [50%], priorities [20%], and lifestyle choices [30%].
Laura Shin writes (excerpt):
The 50/20/30 Rule can be easy because instead of telling you how to break down your budget across 20 or more different categories (who [...]

Graceful disagreement: Guidelines for giving and taking honest feedback

Date March 30, 2014

On Being highlights the work of Brené Brown and offers us guidance on compassionate criticism.
Mariah Helgeson writes (excerpt):
I’m ready to sit next to you rather than across from you.
I’m willing to put the problem in front of us rather than between us (or sliding it toward you).
[...]

A Journey: From nursing to foster caring to parenting to individual adoptions to family

Date March 22, 2014

Senior Judge Bernard A. Friedman issued his decision after trial in DEBOER v SNYDER, Civil Action No. 12-CV-10285 (E.D. Mich. 2014). He determined that the Michigan Marriage Amendment, a 2004 voter-approved amendment to the Michigan Constitution prohibiting same-sex marriage, is unconstitutional.
The lengthy opinion summarizes the holding as follows (excerpt)[citations omitted]:
In attempting to [...]

What would you do with a $20 bill?

Date March 8, 2014

CBS highlights superhero Myles Eckert, age 8.

Relationship building: Tips for difficult conversations

Date March 5, 2014

Today’s Love and Logic Insiders Club e-Newsletter featured tips that apply to make difficult conversations in life. The specific context was teacher-conferences, but it noted the interpersonal applications as well.
Charles Fay excerpted some of his father Jim Fay’s advice (excerpt):
• Remember that parents who look angry and resistant are usually hurting inside.
• When we remember this, [...]

Secrets to finding happiness in your life and relationships

Date February 18, 2014

The TED Radio Hour features insights into happiness research and simpler ways of life. The “Simply Happy” episode includes:
Pharrell and his “Happy” song.
Matt Killingsworth on staying in the moment.
Carl Honoré on slowing down to enjoy life.
Graham Hill on decluttering our lives.
Psychologist Dan Gilbert on feeling happy when things don’t go as planned.
Brother David Steindl-Rast [...]

Valentine’s and Violence

Date February 13, 2014

Jim Wallis poses some interesting thoughts about celebrating February 14th. He writes (excerpt):
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, our annual reminder to celebrate the love we share in our lives. While many may be struggling through aisles of candy hearts and bunches of roses, I invite you to flip this day of mandatory public expressions of [...]

Why am I not happy? Or am happy? Or not sure? Graphic research findings

Date February 9, 2014

Trent Gilliss at On Being shares a Webpage FX infographic on “The Science of Happiness.”
Gilliss writes (excerpt):
The infographic above may not capture the details of the science, but it jogs a host of questions and insights. A few thoughts to chew on:
Married people are 10% happier than unmarried people, but having a child reduces happiness [...]

Considering Cosby: comedy with commentary

Date February 2, 2014

CNN-HLNtv offers us a take on Bill Cosby’s “10 greatest lessons.”
Colette Bennett’s slideshow commentary includes these life lessons (excerpt):
1. Age is in your mind: “Old is always 15 years from now.”
2. Fear is all that’s stopping you: “Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.”
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6. How to maintain your integrity: “If [...]

Sincerity and follow-through: How to apologize

Date January 26, 2014

Steven Stosny, Ph.D. helps us understand how to “[master] the art and science of apology” and shows the wonders of reconciliation–for your relationship, your core self, and your overall well-being.
Steven Stosny writes (excerpt):
Apology must:
1. Come from your heart and sympathize with the effect of your behavior on your loved one. (Focus on what it meant [...]

Dealing with unreasonable people

Date January 2, 2014

Psychology Today offers up “7 Ways to Defuse a Difficult Encounter.”
Susan Biali writes (excerpt):
Minimize time with problem people. . . .
Keep it logical. Communications should be fact-based with minimal details. . . .
Focus on them in conversation. . . .
[...]

For your consideration: Resolutions for divorced parents who love their children

Date January 1, 2014

The Huffington Post highlights Kate Scharff’s New Year’s Resolutions for Divorced Parents in a “Dear Kids, Because we both love you” format. There are 26 statements to which parents may aspire.
Kate Scharff writes (excerpt):
. . . This year, we’ll tell you fond and funny stories about how we met, fell in love, and [...]

Kids gone wild: help for overwhelmed parents

Date December 15, 2013

CNN Parents addresses struggling with a child’s behavioral problems and highlights the fact that there is help out there.
Kelly Wallace includes references to advice like (excerpt):
–”help them hear about why (sneaking on a plane) wasn’t safe, why it was against the law and how other people were harmed, and then you take a look at [...]

How long does it take to process my emotional divorce?

Date October 12, 2013

Psychology Today reminds us that divorce recovery is not a one-size-fits-all. It’s a process that you journey through. And you come out on the other side when you do. The time it takes depends on a number of factors.
Susan Pease Gadoua, L.C.S.W., offers this Top Ten Do’s for Divorce Recovery list (excerpt):
1. [...]

What happens when you put down your phone?

Date September 1, 2013

charstarleneTV reminds us that life happens when you put down your phone.

The story behind the facts: How to get someone to talk

Date July 2, 2013

The New York Times Opinionator reminds us that what’s good for writers is good for us all. When you are “seeking the unknown — the story behind the facts,” the secret is is simple.
Lee Gutkind writes (excerpt):
This is the first lesson for writers — or anyone — who conducts interviews: If you want someone [...]

Great moms make great kids . . . and make those kids handle their own “small, affordable mistakes”

Date May 8, 2013

Love & Logic reminds us that parenting is sometimes counter-intuitive and offers comfort to “the best moms,” mothers who refrain from the urge to be a helicopter parent.
Dr. Charles Fay writes in the Insider’s Club newsletter (excerpt):
On this Mother’s Day holiday, I hope to encourage all of the wonderful mothers who let things fall apart [...]

The divorce roller coaster: Tips for handling your emotions and staying sane

Date April 22, 2013

FoxNews.com highlights ways that parents can remain emotionally stable during separation and divorce and make things liveable for their children.
Tina Paone and Thomas Petrelli listed these 4 tips (excerpt):
1. Don’t Play the Blame Game
2. Custody Is Not a Battle to Be Won
3. Acknowledge Change
4. Keep an Open Mind

Anyone Youer than You?

Date March 2, 2013

Today, Theodor Geisel’s birthday, is a good day to grab a Dr. Seuss book and read it with someone you love. It was Dr. Seuss who said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

Remote communication: documenting in the hopes of better parental relations

Date November 26, 2012

The New York Times plugs into the use of technology to avoid, mitigate or address communication problems between separated and divorced parents.
Pamela Paul writes (excerpt):
Let’s just say that no matter how well ex-spouses and still-parents coordinate, there’s a good chance of teary phone calls, angry exchanges during drop-off, and all-out fights about who’s not saving [...]