CNN highlights Katherine Lewis’s “The Good News About Bad Behavior.” Lewis shows why punishment doesn’t work and outlines various approaches to helping kids learn self-control. Elissa Strauss writes (excerpt): “Punishment is something imposed on a less powerful person by a…
Parenting teens: embracing, understanding, changing
The Guardian gathers a few experts to show parents how to help our teenagers. Included in the tips list are these two: 4 Keep lines of communication open “There’s no doubt that the way you communicate will change,” [Ammanda] Major…
To complain or not to complain: feeding a more productive and valuable cycle
Harvard Business Review help us know what to do when we feel like complaining at work. The principles provide a road map for our other relationships as well. Peter Bregman shares 5 steps to taking effective action and writes (excerpt):…
Scammers fishing for cheaters
CNBC and others, like KrebsOnSecurity, are highlighting scammers spamming affluent neighborhoods with letters declaring “I know you cheated on your wife.” Jennifer Schlesinger and Andrea Day write (excerpt): “The amount of money is such that it’s not so much that…
Getting gross with your partner: Better relationships through dishwashing
The Atlantic reports on the Council of Contemporary Families’ study describing the correlation between who does that dishes and how strong a couples’ relationship is and how long it will last. The Counsil reports that women in heterosexual relationships value…
Getting comfortable: Tips for making public speaking easier
Entrepreneur reminds us of 5 big ideas for successful public speaking–from “seasoned experts.” Jayson DeMers identifies these big 5: 1.Talk about what you know you know. 2. Speak so slowly it feels strange. 3. Talk to the back of the…
Being aisaika: 5 rules for every adoring husband
CNN shares relationship advice from Japan’s Kiyo Yamana, the founder of the Japan Aisaika Organization which celebrates the “adoring husband.” Of the mission set by Kiyo Yamana and his “beloved wife” Kimi, Breeanna Hare writes (excerpt): We also came up…
poems to make you Cry, Smile, Wonder
David C. Sarnacki has published Cry, Smile, Wonder, poems about our collective joys and struggles of being human. The poems touch on such subject matters as: relationships, things Thrivers tell Survivors, friendships, love and divorce, family, parents and children, adoption,…
Women’s loss is government’s gain: the last year of alimony deductibility
The ABA notes the tax law change eliminating the deduction for spousal support (alimony) payers, something around for the last 8 decades. The change is effective at the end of this year (2018). The practical effect in divorces was to…
Happiness: loving life, professionally
The ABA features Dean Nancy Levit and thoughts on loving life, professionally, by finding work you want to do and finding joy in the work you are doing, and by seeking neither perfection nor keeping up with the Joneses. Stephanie…
Intelligence, energy, integrity?: The one trait that matters
Inc quotes Warren Buffett on another secret to his success–find people with integrity to work with. Buffet said: “You’re looking for three things, generally, in a person: intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don’t have the last one, don’t…
New Year’s resolutions for better relationships
From three sources, a potpourri of tips for you and your partner on improving your marriage or relationship. Psychology Today features Jeremy S. Nicholson’s 6 tips, three each for singles and for couples: Resolutions for Singles 1) Be More Social…
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Springing into action: helping make unhappy holidays better
USA Today offers us tips for helping our family and friend dealing with the Holiday Blues. Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant [the the authors of “Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy”] write (excerpt): First: . . .…
Being disgusted with-or kind to-your partner: the top risk factors for divorce
CNN features a Thrive Global item on the predictors of divorce. The item references five correlations between individual factors and the end of a marriage: age, demographics (education and religion), neuroticism (emotional instability), infidelity (affairs), and contempt (hostility). Drake Baer…
Professional Review and Ranking: Sarnacki Law Firm, Best Law Firms 2018
U.S. News – Best Lawyers announced that The Sarnacki Law Firm has made U.S. News – Best Lawyers’ national list of “Best Law Firms.”
You asked for something, I offered something: How to reach out and help
On Being features Omid Safi’s advice for helping someone you love, someone who is struggling. Omid Safi writes (excerpt): But don’t ask them to give you their hand. Instead, offer them your hand. Don’t ask for their heart, offer them…
Rule One: Understanding your kid is a copycat!
CNN references a Rule 1 for one aspect of parenting: modeling good behavior. Ask yourself: Is there some aspect where this Rule 1 would not apply? Kelly Wallace writes (excerpt): Rule No. 1 seems simple enough but is too often…
Always watching: Is Facebook the real “Big Brother?”
CNN Money focuses a moment on Facebook’s most recent example of tracking everything about you. Since people willingly sacrifice privacy for the privilege of using their pages, they watch you and then sell you to advertisers. Tracking habits, Facebook compiled…
Embarking on this great adventure
CNN recently posted the Presidential hand-off letter–from Obama to Trump–on Inauguration Day 2017. Might the four points apply to all of us? 1. Use your blessings to help others. 2. Be a leader, by action and example. 3. Be a…