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The more depressed/anxious, the less likely to seek marriage counseling

The New York Times show how most couples need relationship counseling but are in denial.

Tara Parker-Pope writes (excerpt):
“You don’t wait to see the dentist until something hurts — you go for checkups on a regular basis,” said James V. Córdova, an associate professor of psychology at Clark University in Worcester, Mass., who wrote “The Marriage Checkup” (Jason Aronson, 2009). “That’s the model we’re testing. If people were to bring their marriages in for a checkup on an annual basis, would that provide the same sort of benefit that a physical health checkup would provide?”

Although Dr. Córdova and colleagues are still tallying the data, preliminary findings show that couples who take part in the program do experience improvements in marital quality. By working with couples before they are unhappy, the checkup identifies potentially “corrosive” behaviors and helps couples make small changes in communication style before their problems spiral out of control. (Typical problems include lack of time for sex and blaming a partner for the stresses of child rearing.)


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2 thoughts on “The more depressed/anxious, the less likely to seek marriage counseling

  1. Dr. MG Lazarus

    I used to tell my clients that marriage is a unity in diversity… needs lot of adjustments, compromises, coping skills, support, etc. Problems in a marital life is not rare, but not beyond solutions. Very often people get separated and at a later stage feel very sorry that they didn’t consider the idea of counseling!

  2. Marriage Counseling Services

    All true – amazing how people often forget that they are actually all in the same team… Also reminds me of something my grandmother once said: “There is no such thing as a perfect spouse, and that one can remain happily married to anyone if you’re prepared to invest in the relationship and work at it…”

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