Domestic Diversions

Keeping your marriage strong

Dr. John Gottman’s website includes helpful information for people interested in keeping a marriage strong. In addition to a “Relationship Test,” there is a discussion of these Marriage Tips:

1. Seek help early. (Don’t wait 6 years.)
2. Edit yourself. (Don’t say every angry thing that pops into your head.)
3. Soften your “start up.” (Don’t start the discussion with a nasty remark in a confrontational tone.)
4. Accept influence. (Men, don’t reject your wife’s requests.)
5. Have high standards. (Don’t accept hurtful or bad behavior from one another.)
6. Learn to repair and exit the argument. (Don’t let the situation get completely out of control.)
7. Focus on the bright side. (Don’t make only withdrawals from the marriage’s emotional bank account.)

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