The Detroit Free Press uses the Jon and Kate Gosselin saga at TLC’s “Jon & Kate Plus 8” as a springboard for a discussion about mistrust, honesty and forgiveness. And what about the children?
Erin Chan Ding writes (excerpt):
BENSKEY: You always want to reassure a child that the problem has nothing to do with them. If you’re comfortable, say you’re going to counseling to work it out. But you don’t give them details.
HOLLANDER: It’s not appropriate to be discussing your sex life with your children at all. The other thing that is really important is to acknowledge if there have been upset feelings between the couple, as opposed to pretending everything is fine. You can say, “Mommy and Daddy are having a very difficult time, and we are going to get help.”
BECKER: It’s the most difficult because kids are innocent victims… They might not know what infidelities are going on, but they know emotionally that there’s discord. Try to address it by saying, “Mom and Dad are going through hard things right now. How has that affected you?” Let them talk.