The New York Times shines some light on the universal question that surfaces at some point in a marriage: Did we marry the wrong person? Rather than seeing our relationship as somehow not the way it’s supposed to be, we can “[strive] always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective.”
Alain de Botton writes (excerpt):
The good news is that it doesn’t matter if we find we have married the wrong person.
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WE need to swap the Romantic view [of one perfectly complementary and all-fulfilling mate] for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them. . . .