Entries Categorized as 'General'

Considering Cosby: comedy with commentary

Date February 2, 2014

CNN-HLNtv offers us a take on Bill Cosby’s “10 greatest lessons.”
Colette Bennett’s slideshow commentary includes these life lessons (excerpt):
1. Age is in your mind: “Old is always 15 years from now.”
2. Fear is all that’s stopping you: “Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.”
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6. How to maintain your integrity: “If [...]

A passion for social justice: Michael Chielens, rest in peace

Date November 7, 2013

MLive notes the passing of “one of those great people,” Michael Chielens, Executive Director of Legal Aid of Western Michigan, who died of cancer this past weekend.
Sue Thoms writes (excerpt):
“He just had a heart for the underdog and wanted to push back against systems that are just closed doors to people,” said Leslie Curry, the [...]

Best Lawyers’ Best Law Firms in Grand Rapids

Date November 1, 2013

The Sarnacki Law Firm PLC has been awarded a Tier 1 Ranking in the 2014 Edition of U.S. News – Best Lawyers’ “Best Law Firms.” The firm’s founder, David C. Sarnacki, practices family law, mediation and collaborative divorce in Grand Rapids, Michigan. He has been selected as one of the Best Lawyers in [...]

Overwhelming mistakes: how to deal with common problems in facing divorce

Date August 1, 2013

The Huffington Post includes “The 5 Worst Mistakes People Make During Divorce.” Contributor Michelle Rozen also posts her tips for making it through your divorce.
Michelle Rozen discusses her top 5 (excerpt):
Making Decisions Without Fully Understanding the Implications
Losing Control of Your Divorce
Acting Out of Anger
Settling for Less Than You Need or Deserve
And last but not [...]

The story behind the facts: How to get someone to talk

Date July 2, 2013

The New York Times Opinionator reminds us that what’s good for writers is good for us all. When you are “seeking the unknown — the story behind the facts,” the secret is is simple.
Lee Gutkind writes (excerpt):
This is the first lesson for writers — or anyone — who conducts interviews: If you want someone [...]

Steps to a Happier Life

Date October 1, 2012

U.S. News offers research on how simple adjustments of habit may translate to greater feelings of fulfillment and well-being.  While strategies were provided for each age demographic, certain practices rang true for all:

Express gratitude
Cultivate optimism
Avoid overthinking and social comparison
Practice acts of kindness
Nurture social relationships
Develop strategies for coping
Learn to forgive
Increase flow experiences, or intense focus on the present [...]

Best Lawyers in America Selection

Date September 19, 2012

David Sarnacki has been selected by attorneys and judges for inclusion in Best Lawyers in America, 19th Edition. His peer-review selection includes three areas: Family Law; Family Law Mediation; and Collaborative Law–Family Law.

Strengthen the Relationship with Your Kids

Date September 7, 2012

With the fall school year approaching, The Huffington Post and Deborah Moskovitch outline tips for adjusting families to improve parent-child relationships.
1. Re-frame your thinking: Rather than clocking minutes, place emphasis on the quality of time you are spending together.
2. Be creative: Invest in the relationship by doing what is in their best interest.  Get involved with their homework, extracurricular [...]

How to improve your relationship: Love starts with empathy

Date July 19, 2012

Real Age and Sharecare explains how reading your partner’s emotions and feeling your partner’s efforts to understand your own emotions relate to happiness in the relationship.
Julie Hanks writes (excerpt):
Listen for emotional messages [the emotional message may be different than the words]
Push the pause button on your own emotions [instead of responding defensively, take a deep [...]

Flirting with an apology

Date January 11, 2012

USA Today’s Ask Stacy reminds us of the three elements of a true apology: “sorry,” responsibility for the choice taken, and promise for the future.
Stacy Kaiser writes (excerpt):
A true apology should consist of three elements: taking responsibility for your mistake, saying you’re sorry and a commitment to never do what hurt that person again. . [...]

Why your kids should be happy

Date January 1, 2012

CNN and Parenting.com give us the “Top 10 Parenting Fails of 2011.” If you didn’t make the list, rejoice! Sasha Emmons of Parenting.com includes items on:
Mom Uses Hot Sauce as Punishment
Moms Selling Babies
Girl Brings Dad’s Cocaine to School
Mom Gets 7-Year-Old a Boob Job
Mom Dresses Daughter Like a Prostitute
Dad Throws Son Off Cruise Ship
Drunk [...]

The power of positivity: Gottman says awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy

Date December 1, 2011

CNN includes tips on what to do if you want more sex in your life. It’s the same secret to a lasting relationship and marriage: be nice.
Ian Kerner, the Good in Bed counselor, quotes Emily Nagoski, the self-proclaimed Sex Nerd, commenting on John Gottman’s book “The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples” (excerpt):
“Boiling [...]

Trying to control your ex versus just smiling

Date November 29, 2011

The Love and Logic newsletter encourages parents to avoid the tendency of kids to throw one parent’s house rules against the other. L&L also reassures us that children can have two homes and still grow into healthy adults.
Dr. Charles Fay writes (excerpt):
Smart parents know that kids are capable of adjusting to different styles of [...]

Facebook bombs: Shattered, My brain’s been battered

Date March 3, 2011

CNN covers Facebook’s facilitation of emotional affairs and infidelity.
Ian Kerner writes (excerpt):
[W]hile feeling attraction is unavoidable, acting on it crosses the line. Attraction is one ingredient of an emotional affair. In order for attraction to launch into an emotional affair, a person has to also develop intimacy and, eventually, a feeling of connection with that [...]

You… you complete me: The sustainable-marriage quiz

Date January 7, 2011

The New York Times highlights the role of self-expansion in marriages and relationships: how helping your partner become a better person, makes the relationship happier and more satisfied. The article includes a link to the “sustainable-marriage quiz”
Tara Parker-Pope writes (excerpt):
“If you’re seeking self-growth and obtain it from your partner, then that puts your partner in [...]

Wabi Sabi the people in your life: celebrating imperfection

Date September 30, 2010

USA Today reminds us that imperfections can “bring life together perfectly.”
Craig Wilson writes (excerpt):
But what I was most pleased to learn is that wabi sabi pertains to people, too — that you accept each other, even when they are “imperfect, unfinished and mortal.” It says so right here in the article.
I like the word “unfinished.” [...]

“Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.” (Mark Twain): How not to bug the judge

Date August 24, 2010

The ABA Journal reports on dress codes for courtrooms and bans on: pajamas, saggy pants, exposed undergarments, bare feet, curlers, gang clothes, muscle shirts, tank tops, halters, bare midriffs, miniskirts (hemlines more than 4 inches above the knee),
excessive, uncovered body piercings and tattoos, flip-flops, T-shirts with inappropriate messages and clown suits.
Debra Cassens Weiss writes (excerpt):
The [...]

A heart for giving: Robert J. Dugan

Date July 23, 2010

The Grand Rapids Press notes the passing of attorney Bob Dugan.
Heidi Fenton writes (excerpt):
Robert Dugan loved being involved with his community, a trait he built on for decades since signing onto the downtown law firm Rhoades McKee in the 1970s.
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He noted that Mr. Dugan’s compassion for clients and for the community as a whole will [...]

“Being there is 80 percent of the job”–Chris Rock on Fathers

Date June 16, 2010

USA Today shows how “non-resident” dads who don’t live with their children are staying involved with them. Half of all children will spend part of their lives living apart from their fathers.
Sharon Jayson writes (excerpt):
“The point isn’t what fathers do; it’s whether the kid thinks or believes the father cares about them,” says Philip Cowan, [...]

Discipline for stepparents

Date June 11, 2010

The Love and Logic Institute issued its weekly email newsletter with help for stepparents feeling the need to discipline stepchildren. The four tips flow from the Love and Logic consultant style of parenting (fully documented in the many resources available at and through the website).
Dr. Charles Fay writes (excerpt) that consultant parents and [...]