USA Today explains investing for the future (in relationships, that is [not how to make money fast or other get rich quick schemes]).
Sharon Jayson writes (excerpt):
Now research from the University of Denver supports the idea that finding moments to be together free of financial, family or other stresses — just to have fun together — is not an indulgence.
“The more you invest in fun and friendship and being there for your partner, the happier the relationship will get over time,” says Howard Markman, a psychologist who co-directs the university’s Center for Marital and Family Studies.
“The correlation between fun and marital happiness is high, and significant.”
Well I have been married for 18 years now and 21 year all together….I just found out my wife had an affair with one of my neighbors andit was the one we spent all our free time with. We vacationed together cook outs went dancing out everything. Our nieghbors had their issues too but this affair happen last Dec. and it all came out this year. We have 3 boys and I spend all my free time with them. My wife put her kids before anything including me. She tells me that this whole problem stends from when I had an arguement with my oldest boy and I grabbed him and she started to fall out of love with me. My nieghbor lend a helping ear and listened to her and she kept on telling him of the problems we were having. And he told her of the problems he was having with his wife. But never would I have imagined they would have slepted together ! Even now the nieghbor is separted from his wife and me I am still here but she told me she is not in love with me and that she loves him but can not see being with him. Look I am all for forgiveness but I can never forget. This man took what I had most dear to me and it was my wife’s love…she use to tell me I was her everything and now I am nothing…she holds her sons love in front of her soo much that same love will kill her if her sons ever found out why we would get a divorce…her sons would hate her for the pain she caused me and I still love her and I want to make this right but nothing I do will ever bring back my love……..