The Tallahassee Democrat hosts Jeff Herring’s advice for building a better marriage. The problem he addresses is the “but I told you”-“no you didn’t” argument. Herring explains that “checking” is the communication antidote to assuming (excerpt):
About the only strategy I have found that works with this situation is doing the opposite of that highly dangerous habit of assuming. The opposite of assuming is checking. . . .
. . .Checking is a very powerful strategy. It can save you many more important things than a last day at the cabin. It just goes to show the wisdom of an old saying – “It’s not what you don’t know that hurts you; it’s what you know that is just not so.”