Common Ground sheds light on four myths about marriage. Claire Maisonneuve writes (excerpt): Myth #1: Resolving your conflicts is the key to a happy marriage. [The key is that partners need to feel like they are accepted for who they…
Resource for workshops & classes: Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services
Pine Rest is presenting workshops and classes of interests to parents: Starting March 4–Parenting With Love & Logic (March 4 – April 29): Pine Rest’s Holland Clinic presents an 8-week class for parents of children ages 6-12. Call 616/820-3780 for…
Magic words for a happy marriage: We–a natural outgrowth of partnership
The New York Daily News reveals research showing that couples who use ‘we’ are happier than those who use ‘I’, ‘me’ or ‘you.’ Sherryl Connelly writes (excerpt): “We-ness” is a language that spouses who are better able to resolve conflicts…
Bringing “Love and Respect” to the troops
WOOD-TV reports that Grand Rapids marriage expert/author Emerson Eggerichs is off to Iraq to visit the troops. Here’s why (excerpt): In November, the military released statistics noting in the 2009 fiscal year alone there were more than 27,000 divorces among…
Apple screenshots: Losing privacy with iPhone
ABA Journal.com tells us why one law firm switched to BlackBerrys: security issues and iPhone screenshots of your data. Debra Cassens Weiss writes (excerpt): Apple says its iPhone 3GS has hardware encryption, but it is still possible to gain access,…
How confidential are e-mails sent while at work?
ABAJournal.comreports on the privilege afforded to a federal prosecutor whose private e-mail to his own lawyer was sent from a government computer at work. Martha Neil writes (excerpt): Because he is allowed to use his work e-mail account for personal…
Apologizing to your wife: How an apology might save your marriage
Psychology Todaytutors men on how to apologize to a woman and maybe save a marriage along the way. [NOTE: This was written before the Tiger Woods scandal!] Sam Margulies gives men these six elements of a proper apology to a…
Rewriting history: Explaining your wedding state of mind after you’ve decided to divorce
USA Today shows us how couples with plenty of relationship doubts get married anyway, especially those who have been living together. The articles differentiates between having cold feet and feeling more serious reservations. One of the difficulties for researchers is…
The kids are alright: How children of same-sex couples are doing
The New York Times shows how children of same-sex couples are doing just fine, highlighting research by Abbie E. Goldberg, an assistant professor in the department of psychology at Clark University and author of “Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their…
Appreciating strengths: Accepting different ways of parenting
The New York Timesdiscusses a study about involving fathers, as well as the benefits of co-parenting or parallel parenting. Laurie Tarkan writes (excerpt): . . . [T]he critical difference was not greater involvement by the fathers in child-rearing but greater…
A bit foreign, scary even: Collaborative divorce
Single Parent Gossip shares the method for using collaborative law to resolve your divorce out of court. Talibah Mbonisi writes (excerpt): . . . In this cooperative framework, both parties also agree to: – Act in their children’s best interests…
What’s my chances of getting a divorce? Statistical factors associated with divorce
The New York Times focuses on a different topic (Money Talks to Have Before Marriage), but includes an interesting discussion of statistical analysis and the risk of divorce. Ron Lieber writes (excerpt): The risk that any marriage will end in…
The inventor of the Collaborative Divorce Process
Stu Webb is being honored for finding a better way to divorce at the 10th International Academy of Collaborative Professionals Educational Forum.
Most expansive: What motherhood means to Uma Thurman
USAToday shares some of Uma Thurman’s reflection on motherhood and “Motherhood,” including struggling to balance home and work lives, and being caught outside in her nightgown. Olivia Barker writes (excerpt): So, then, what does motherhood mean to her? “It’s an…
Maximum impact: How to organize your trial evidence
The ABA’s McElhaney on Litigation suggests replacing chronology with groups of vivid word pictures. Jim McElhaney writes (excerpt): http://www.abajournal.com/magazine/give_chronology_a_timeout McElhaney on Litigation “. . . Tell them the story. . . . [P]ut together a series of verbal snapshots that…
Mediators can help collaborative divorces smooth out rough edges
ABA Book Briefs Blog features a divorce mediation excerpt from the book “Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce without Litigation,” Second Edition by Pauline H. Tesler (excerpt): If a collaborative case runs into problems, a “meta-mediator” can help everyone…
How to increase your custodial-parenting time
Richard Forrest Gould-Saltman posted a summary of how a non-custodial parent can maximize parenting time. The summary was written with California in mind, but many of the principles are equally applicable across the country. Mr. Gould-Saltman writes: The things you…
Why won’t he talk to me? How to argue with a man about money, housework, friendships and sex
CNN and O, The Oprah Magazine explain that research confirms men and women experience the same relationship very differently and that patience and humor can work better than more of the same. Gretchen Reynolds writes (excerpt): “It’s quite possible that…
5 secrets to a great marriage plus “sexual healing”
Brides magazine summarizes five rules for getting and keeping a great marriage. Then it adds a few words about having plenty of sex. Lexi Dwyer writes (excerpt): 1. Do things together. . . . 2. But also do things separately.…
Persuading the stubborn: How to get through to someone who won’t listen to you
PowerHomeBiz.com reveals 5 powerful and persuasive moves for getting through a person’s mental defenses based on the work of Mark Goulston, the author of JUST LISTEN. The 5 tips include: “Do you really believe that?” The Power of Hmmm .…