The Detroit News shows divorced parents working together to make the holidays special for their children. Michael H. Hodges writes (excerpt):
For those couples divided by bitterness, Jones reminds them that how they negotiate the who-gets-the-kids issue has everything to do with whether the children have an OK, or angst-filled, holiday.
Holidays remind kids that things have changed forever, Jones notes.
“So, depending on how the parents negotiate things, they can be mildly difficult to awful.”
Note: The sidebar to the article lists these tips (excerpt):
Here are tips from parents and psychologists:
Attempt this only if you and your ex get along. If you’re miserable around each other, a joint celebration could easily make the holiday miserable for your children.
Rather than aim for meaningful discussions, stick to light chats to keep things festive.
When in doubt about what to discuss, talk about the kids.
If you decide a joint celebration isn’t for you, remember how you and your ex negotiate will decide whether your children suffer or enjoy the season. Put their needs first.