The Detroit Free Press identifies the need for couples to take action, work with their marriage counselor and avoid four obstacles to a successful therapy relationship.
Alex Kecskes writes (excerpt):
1. Couples don’t have a goal in mind. They’re stuck in their own feelings about the relationship, their own blame about how their partner has wronged them, and they have a never-ending list of excuses. . . .
2. Looking more deeply at a relationship rather than just calling it quits incites fear in many couples. What is healthier and more beneficial is if pairs face what they dread most and conquer it. . . .
3. If couples want to be in a relationship, they have to do something about it. But doing something has to be more than just saying they desire a better relationship and then hoping for it with all their might. To reach a goal, couples must take action.
4. Many couples look at counseling as a drain on their finances instead of an investment in their relationship. They convince themselves that their issue isn’t that big, after all, that they can fix it themselves, or that it’ll miraculously disappear … just to save a few bucks. . . .