Susan Page is an author with some counterintuitive advice on relationships. Her website references the following “Spiritual Partnership” concepts, more thoroughly explained in her books:
The Five Principles of Spiritual Partnership
1. Use loving actions instead of communication when you come to an impasse.
2. Never try to solve a problem by asking your partner to change.
3. No matter who is "right" or "wrong," exhibit a spirit of good will. Ask, "If I were going to behave in accord with my highest spiritual self, what would I do now?"
4. Strive to keep in balance the times you stand up for your partner's needs, and the times you stand up for yourself.
5. Don't discuss problems; don't try to solve problems. It is an illusion to think that if you can solve your problems, you will be happy. Most problems don't have a solution anyway; they are not problems, but facts of life. Instead of trying to solve your problems, do something to create a harmonious atmosphere in your relationship — right now.
Five Sacred Actions
1. Practice restraint
2. Act as if
3. Act on your own
4. Practice acceptance
5. Practice compassion