CNN/Money reminds us that of that refrain “money can’t buy me love.”
Jeanne Sahadi writes (excerpt):
So whenever you find yourself fantasizing about having a wealthy spouse (perhaps after barking at your short-of-a-million honey), consider some of the potential challenges you’d face:
“Controlling share” is not just a corporate term. Making decisions in a marriage is always a bit of a power struggle. But if your partner has 1,000 times more wealth than you, does he or she get 1,000 times more say in how money is used and how much you get to spend?
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Money doesn’t grow on trees. It’s made by Type-A personalities who may rely on sweat shops. Sometimes a partner’s wealth, whether earned or inherited, can become a source of conflict when you learn how the money was made and realize those methods clash with your values.
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Meet the parents. They may be running your life. If your partner inherited money, his or her family may have a lot of say in what you and your kids will be doing for the next 20 years. Conditions of trust funds may include the schools your kids must attend. And the culture of wealth may start to overtake your daily living in ways you’d never expect.
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How’s ’bout you help manage the money, honey? One way to preserve your identity in a marriage of unequal means is to keep pursuing your career.But what if you luck out and marry a rich spouse who not only wants to share the wealth but wants you to take an active role in managing it? All of sudden you’ve not only married into money, you’re being asked to make it your life’s work.
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Like filling bottomless pits? Sometimes it’s not you but your partner who has an identity crisis.Suppose the wealth holder can’t get over the suspicion that you only married him or her for the money. That mistrust, sometimes ingrained from a young age, “puts an extra burden on the spouse” to show the wealthier partner he or she is truly loved, Pearne noted.
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Bad news. Prince Charming can leave, die or fail. This is a particularly troublesome fact for women who become dependent on wealthy husbands after making home and family their focus, but it also applies to working wives who leave all the money management to their wealthier husbands.
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“It’s wonderful to marry money,” she said, but at the end of the day, “you’re your only source of security.”
hmm, i think that out there in our society now days many women marry for money, but most of them should dcome to a stop. Because women should be indpendent!!! -you dont end up like Ana Nicole!!!
-yesenia
I had a good friend who married because she thought the man was wealthy and she could make him wealthier. She focused all her time & effort on money and she ended up neglecting her own health and her own family. She failed to pay attention to chest pains she had been having and she died March 2,2004 from a fatal heart attack. Now her husband, that she never really loved, has EVERYTHING that once was hers and her family is having to fight him in court for their “fair share”. Was it worth it? I think not!!