Career Contessa provides advice for anyone who apologizes excessively and unnecessarily. Saving your verbal power when it’s not your fault enhances your authority and confidence. Donna Moriarty explains the concepts and also identifies examples of being “brief, specific, direct,” such…
Small talk, big connections
CNBC offers up advice on what successful people do when making small talk, and it’s not “How are you?”. It’s asking more meaningful follow-up questions. The approach shows how to speak up so others will listen and how, in the…
Disappointment’s greatest gift: treating yourself with compassion
Psychology Today gives us Do’s and Don’ts for “What to Do When You Feel Let Down by Someone.” Toni Bernhard’s list of Helpful Responses includes (excerpt): 1. Recognizing that all relationships change 2. Feeling happy for others 3. Questioning the…
Parenting tips on how to raise a happier child
Happy Child starts with Tal Ben Shahar, the researcher, author and lecturer, and translates concepts into tips for building happier children. Yvette Vignando’s list (and discussion) includes (excerpt): 1. Allow your children to notice the full range of feelings they…
Professional Review and Rating: David C. Sarnacki, Super Lawyers 2018
Super Lawyers selected David C. Sarnacki to its 2018 Michigan Super Lawyers list. Super Lawyers, part of Thomson Reuters, uses “a patented, multi-phase process that includes peer nominations, evaluations and independent research” to select the top 5% of attorneys in…
Not dying up here: 3 public speaking tips
Business Insider highlights the techniques Ramona Smith used to win the 2018 Toastmasters World Championship of Public Speaking competition. The interview includes her six-minute speech. Mark Abadi focuses us on three of her techniques: 1. Choosing a creative opening to…
Support for survivors and supporters
The American Heart Association featured the poem “Things Thrivers Tell Survivors” on its support blog.
Scammers fishing for cheaters
CNBC and others, like KrebsOnSecurity, are highlighting scammers spamming affluent neighborhoods with letters declaring “I know you cheated on your wife.” Jennifer Schlesinger and Andrea Day write (excerpt): “The amount of money is such that it’s not so much that…
Getting comfortable: Tips for making public speaking easier
Entrepreneur reminds us of 5 big ideas for successful public speaking–from “seasoned experts.” Jayson DeMers identifies these big 5: 1.Talk about what you know you know. 2. Speak so slowly it feels strange. 3. Talk to the back of the…
Intelligence, energy, integrity?: The one trait that matters
Inc quotes Warren Buffett on another secret to his success–find people with integrity to work with. Buffet said: “You’re looking for three things, generally, in a person: intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don’t have the last one, don’t…
New Year’s resolutions for better relationships
From three sources, a potpourri of tips for you and your partner on improving your marriage or relationship. Psychology Today features Jeremy S. Nicholson’s 6 tips, three each for singles and for couples: Resolutions for Singles 1) Be More Social…
Springing into action: helping make unhappy holidays better
USA Today offers us tips for helping our family and friend dealing with the Holiday Blues. Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant [the the authors of “Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy”] write (excerpt): First: . . .…
You asked for something, I offered something: How to reach out and help
On Being features Omid Safi’s advice for helping someone you love, someone who is struggling. Omid Safi writes (excerpt): But don’t ask them to give you their hand. Instead, offer them your hand. Don’t ask for their heart, offer them…
Always watching: Is Facebook the real “Big Brother?”
CNN Money focuses a moment on Facebook’s most recent example of tracking everything about you. Since people willingly sacrifice privacy for the privilege of using their pages, they watch you and then sell you to advertisers. Tracking habits, Facebook compiled…
Embarking on this great adventure
CNN recently posted the Presidential hand-off letter–from Obama to Trump–on Inauguration Day 2017. Might the four points apply to all of us? 1. Use your blessings to help others. 2. Be a leader, by action and example. 3. Be a…
Professional Review and Rating: David C. Sarnacki, Super Lawyers 2017
Super Lawyers selected David C. Sarnacki to its 2017 Michigan Super Lawyers list. Super Lawyers, part of Thomson Reuters, uses “a patented, multi-phase process that includes peer nominations, evaluations and independent research” to select the top 5% of attorneys in…
Restoring trust after a crisis: how to prevent making things worse
CNN Money highlights four keys to recovering from a crisis and restoring reputation. While written in the context of what companies should do in a public relations crisis, the tips provide a focus for relationship problems we encounter. Rupert Younger…
Why do I feel alone?: The upside of things going wrong
Jennifer Ryan animated an On Being discussion of fear, vulnerability and connection. The 2015 conversation between Brené Brown and Krista Tippett explored The Courage to Be Vulnerable, and Ryan recently added her artistic inspiration to the voices. Ryan writes (excerpt):…
Extracting lies, with a little help from your mother
Craig Gray, a truly brilliant Renaissance man (and Grand Rapids’ own Krav Maga master), posted an effective tip from his PeaceWalker Program. “The Lie Detector” was inspired by the look given by a mother, and you too can use it…
Staying happy: 5 tips for no matter what happens
CNN’s Health section highlights five coping strategies from the Dalai Lama, including being gentle with yourself, making time to reflect, keeping compassion at hand, helping, and being playful. Jen Christensen writes (excerpt): First step, work on compassion and start by…