Entries Categorized as 'Families/Children'

Mom, Dad, Junior: Being direct is healthy!

Date August 26, 2015

Love and Logic reminds us that we should share concerns directly, rather than aligning with someone else and dragging him or her into the problem.
Dr. Charles Fay writes (excerpt):
Fortunately, mental health experts have learned a great deal about how to help families operate in healthy, happy ways. One of the most helpful discoveries involves who [...]

Marriage is for Old Folks? U.S. Supreme Court says No, disagrees with Nina Simone

Date June 26, 2015

From today’s United Supreme Court decision in OBERGEFELL v. HODGES Justice Kennedy offers these comments on marriage (excerpt):
. . . Marriage is sacred to those who live by their religions and offers unique fulfillment to those who find meaning in the secular realm. Its dynamic allows two people to find a life that could [...]

Rebounding from hard times: how do I bounce back from adversity

Date May 25, 2015

The June 1, 2015 issue of Time Magazine has an article on The Art of Resilience (page 36), which includes a sidebar with 10 expert tips (page 42).
The top three tips for rising above difficulties, setbacks, stress, loss and suffering were (excerpt):
1. Develop a core set of beliefs that nothing can shake
2. Try to find [...]

The evolving future of marriage

Date April 19, 2015

In case number 14-571 , the U.S. Supreme Court is considering the case of Michigan residents April DeBoer and Jayne Rowse. Arguments are scheduled for April 28th, and a decision is expected by late June.
The briefs submitted to the Supreme Court highlight two issues:
1. Does the Fourteenth Amendment require [...]

From courtroom to the capitol: Fathers rights in custody cases

Date April 16, 2015

The Wall Street Journal covers the push for legislation in about 20 states to give fathers more child custody rights in divorce cases.

when No is better than Yes

Date March 1, 2015

On Being offers 5 different ways to say “No.”
On saying No gracefully, Courtney E. Martin writes (excerpt):
1. No, for now.
****
2. No, but here are some awesome resources.
****
3. No, but have you tried our mutual friend?
****
4. No, I can’t do that, but I can do this.
****
5. Let me think about it.

Get rich quick: scouting for amazing friends

Date January 4, 2015

On Being reminds us “why it’s such an outrageous blessing to have the opportunity to choose our friends.”
Courtney E. Martin writes (excerpt):
So now that the family circus is over for another season and you’re turning your attention to the beginning of a new year, consider this for a resolution: become a fierce talent scout of [...]

You can do it too: ordinary people acting heroic

Date December 18, 2014

CNN entices us with the title: “5 ways to be extraordinary.” In discussing five extraordinary people, Brandon Griggs lists these categories:
1. Show courage in a crisis
2. Exhibit grace under pressure
3. Meet evil head on
4. Miracles are within your grasp
5. Share credit for your success

In the darkest moments of our lives: Col. Jessep’s “You want answers?”

Date December 6, 2014

On Being highlighted one of my favorite quotes in a post about The Questions We Ask Ourselves.
The words of Rainer Maria Rilke offer a bit of light in moments of blinding darkness:
“Be patient toward all that is unresolved in your heart… Try to love the questions themselves… Do not now seek the answers, [...]

The true cost of Facebook: your marriage?

Date October 10, 2014

Ozy highlights a Boston University study suggesting Facebook is “a positive, significant predictor of divorce rate and spousal troubles.” Apparently, Henry David Thoreau* was right about true cost: “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.”
Anne Miller writes (excerpt):
While previous studies suggested that Facebook and its ilk [...]

Who has the power to change your life?

Date September 15, 2014

CNN celebrated Positive Thinking Day (September 13th) by offering “five expert tips to help you think yourself well.” The point is to take responsibility for your happiness and to do something.
Sara Cheshire included these tips (excerpt):
Be aware of your automatic reactions
Catch and reframe your thoughts
Don’t believe everything your mind tells you
Let go of fear
Find [...]

Who do professionals recommend as one of the best divorce lawyers and divorce lawyers in Grand Rapids?

Date August 18, 2014

Best Lawyers in America announced that once again, David Sarnacki was selected by judges and lawyers as one of The Best Lawyers in America. He was honored in three practice areas relating to divorce litigation and divorce mediation:
1. Collaborative Law: Family Law.
2. Family Law.
3. Family Law Mediation.

Changing minds: Listen, show you understand the other person’s side, ask to see your side, suggest another outcome

Date August 17, 2014

Real Simple suggests how to go about changing someone’s mind.
Amy Spencer writes (excerpt):
The essential rule when trying to convert someone is: Don’t — at least, not at first. “Just listen,” says Dennis Ross [author of "The Missing Peace"] . . . .
. . . After listening, show that you get it.
***
Next, nudge the other [...]

Top 5 admissions: Are you trying to kill your children?

Date July 20, 2014

CNN’s Kelly Wallace shows how many otherwise good parents admit to choices that put their kids at risk of serious injury and death.

Spilling your guts and other concerns when preparing for divorce

Date July 13, 2014

Kim Komando adds 5 things to your To Do List when a divorce is coming, as well as an opening warning to think twice before posting to social media. In the column, Komando has tips regarding passwords, social media profiles, personal information, and the kids.
In her introduction, Kim Komando writes (excerpt):
My father used to [...]

Favors make the world go around: “Social wheels” and relationships

Date July 5, 2014

Psychology Today included an item from Susan Krauss Whitbourne’s blog, entitled “How to Ask For a Favor.” She offered 7 specific situations commonly involving opportunities for favors, and she identified 4 core principles.
Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., explains each of these Four Favor principles (excerpt):
1. Be honest and straightforward. . . .
2. Don’t [...]

Forget your perfect offering: The cumulative effect of imperfect parenting

Date June 15, 2014

On Being includes a post by Parker J. Palmer that, while not intended to focus on Father’s Day, applies to parenting: Have the courage to make small contributions knowing that there is a cumulative power in your imperfections.
Palmer writes (excerpt):
[Leonard] Cohen’s lyrics [in Anthem] remind me that there is a particular kind of courage [...]

She says, you too can rise

Date May 29, 2014

Maya Angelou (1928 – 2014), heart, soul and voice of “And Still I Rise.”

Best wedding vows: perfect marriage by following science?

Date April 30, 2014

Psychology Today offers us scientific wedding vows.
Samantha Joel’s list includes (excerpt):
1. “I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.”
2. “I promise to support and protect your freedom; because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours alone.”
3. “I [...]

Essentials, priorities and lifestyle choices: How to set up a quick budget

Date April 1, 2014

LearnVest offers a simple budgeting rule to apply instantly to your household. Your take-home pay is allocated among three categories: essentials [50%], priorities [20%], and lifestyle choices [30%].
Laura Shin writes (excerpt):
The 50/20/30 Rule can be easy because instead of telling you how to break down your budget across 20 or more different categories (who [...]